Next week is the 13th anniversary of my father’s death.
So death has been on my mind.
It’s funny our culture tends to ignore that death is an inevitable part of life.
We’re afraid. We don’t really know what happens after that.
Death – a once in a life opportunity.
I don’t want to miss it when my time comes.
As a tween, a friend said that she wanted to die in her sleep. I replied that it’s a once in a lilfe-time experience, and I don’t want to miss a moment of it.
Well, it’s once in a lifetime for most of us anyway. We’ve all heard stories or read books about people who lived to tell about their near-death experiences.
I’ve dallied with Eastern Philosophies since I first discovered them at age 17. And some traditions say Tibetan Book of Living and Dying is an excellent resource for anyone interested in this topic. It describes a meditation practice to prepare for this sacred moment.
That our entire lives can be a preparation for that sacred moment when we slip out of the body.
Whether you believe in reincarnation or not, the days before death are frequently when many people finally forgive someone they couldn’t, reveal secret longings of their heart, realize that they wanted to give more of themselves.
A Sacred Moment
I don’t think it means to party til you drop, although some people may want to do that.
My father had an extended illness, and I was honored to witness in my many visits how his energy shifted. My mother died suddenly and unexpectedly, and I wonder whether she felt unfinished as she slipped away.
In those moments, I realize that anything could happen at any time, and any day could be my last on Earth.
I imagine what I might feel as I lay dying. What might I regret not saying or doing? What might I wish I had accomplished? Would I feel that I had finished my life… everything I wanted to accomplish? Both in the outer “success” realm, and in the inner, growth realm?
And why not do some of that NOW while I am healthy and able?
Couch Potato or Deep Living
So instead of watching another movie, I have the opportunity today, this evening, right now, to dive deep inside and ask those questions. To know more about who I am and why I came here.
My coach potato resume is pretty impressive already. So I have canceled my Netflix streaming and Hulu subscriptions.
I slip sometimes, and binge-watch a good TV show. But more and more, I turn off the set and spend time with my inner world.
I want to build other parts of my resume.
I want to listen to the big iYam. I mean, the Big I-am.
What About You?
What do you think about death?