Death – a Once In A Lifetime Opportunity

bokeh lightsNext week is the 13th anniversary of my father’s death.

So death has been on my mind.

It’s funny our culture tends to ignore that death is an inevitable part of life.

We’re afraid. We don’t really know what happens after that.

Death – a once in a life opportunity.

I don’t want to miss it when my time comes.

As a tween, a friend said that she wanted to die in her sleep. I replied that it’s a once in a lilfe-time experience, and I don’t want to miss a moment of it.

Well, it’s once in a lifetime for most of us anyway. We’ve all heard stories or read books about people who lived to tell about their near-death experiences.

Eastern Wisdom

I’ve dallied with Eastern Philosophies since I first discovered them at age 17. And some traditions say Tibetan Book of Living and Dying is an excellent resource for anyone interested in this topic. It describes a meditation practice to prepare for this sacred moment.

That our entire lives can be a preparation for that sacred moment when we slip out of the body.

Whether you believe in reincarnation or not, the days before death are frequently when many people finally forgive someone they couldn’t, reveal secret longings of their heart, realize that they wanted to give more of themselves.

A Sacred Moment

In witnessing these sacred moments, I remember that I want to live my life that way. When I hear, “Live each day as if it were your last.”, I think of these things.

I don’t think it means to party til you drop, although some people may want to do that.

My father had an extended illness, and I was honored to witness in my many visits how his energy shifted. My mother died suddenly and unexpectedly, and I wonder whether she felt unfinished as she slipped away.

In those moments, I realize that anything could happen at any time, and any day could be my last on Earth.

I imagine what I might feel as I lay dying. What might I regret not saying or doing? What might I wish I had accomplished? Would I feel that I had finished my life… everything I wanted to accomplish? Both in the outer “success” realm, and in the inner, growth realm?

And why not do some of that NOW while I am healthy and able?

Couch Potato or Deep Living

So instead of watching another movie, I have the opportunity today, this evening, right now, to dive deep inside and ask those questions. To know more about who I am and why I came here.

To be more awake instead of working on what the late Linda Webb-Kakabah called her “Coach Potato Resume.”

My coach potato resume is pretty impressive already. So I have canceled my Netflix streaming and Hulu subscriptions.

I slip sometimes, and binge-watch a good TV show. But more and more, I turn off the set and spend time with my inner world.

I want to build other parts of my resume.

I want to listen to the big iYam. I mean, the Big I-am.

What About You?

What do you think about death?

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Mental Equivalent

What is a mental equivalent and why would I want one?

mental equivalentA Mental Equivalent is a mental and emotional vision, thought, or feeling of something. It is how we view and experience our world.

For example, if I say the word “chair” you have at least one mental equivalent for what a chair is, what it looks like, and what it’s for. You might imagine an office chair, a folding chair, a recliner, an overstuffed comfy lounging chair, or some other variety. But you have an idea for “chair”.

The same goes for any other word or desire we have.

So we each have a mental equivalent of our health, finances, relationships, ourselves, work and career, everything. It is our mental template for how we see and experience the world. Most of these ideas or mental equivalents work for us. But sometimes they need a tune-up in order to improve an area of our lives. Continue reading “Mental Equivalent”

What is Group Mind?

thinking dogWhat is “Group Mind”?
Group Mind is the group culture or set of assumptions about what is normal and right, how to do things, even how to speak and behave. There is Group Mind on the global level, which assumes humans’ place in the world, believes in laws, reward and punishment, how to treat the planet we live on, and so on.

Group Mind is like the ocean of beliefs we swim in. They are so much a part of our world that we may not even realize that they are there.

When do you notice a Group Mind Thought?

Big Question MarkDifferences in Group Mind have been very obvious in the recent political scene, with our country split right down the middle into polar opposites. Differences in group mind are quite obvious in the recent discussions on gay marriage and birth control. Like a subculture, each side feels very strongly about their position.

Group Mind can also be as subtle as whether it is polite to put your left hand in your lap when eating dinner, or if it’s polite to keep both hands above the table.

Continue reading “What is Group Mind?”

Giving Taking Receiving

Reprinted from my old blog at

I’ve thought about this a number of times over the years… what’s the difference between giving, receiving, taking, and waiting?


TakingFor me, if someone takes something from me, they have also taken my ability to give it freely.

Since it was not my choice. It was either taken without asking, or without permission. That doesn’t feel good to the one taken from.

And for me, it doesn’t feel good when I have taken something from someone. Even their time. Continue reading “Giving Taking Receiving”

Harmonize, don’t polarize

I recently saw a video on Facebook that showed a black family sticking up for their teenage daughter who had been the target of racial slurs while in line at a restaurant. It quickly turned into heated argument and name-calling. The man was actually holding his wife back. She was ready for a fist fight. It is hard to watch that kind of thing. But I know it happens every day. But I would prefer to harmonize, not polarize. How can we do that with the current crazy behaviors in our country? Continue reading “Harmonize, don’t polarize”


Peace doveIn this current political season, it is easy to see other people’s attachment. And hopefully, that allows us to also see our own.

Does being attached serve anyone? Does it help the situation? Is that #aworldthatworksforeveryone ?

Change your thinking, change your life

In Science of Mind, we have a catch-phrase: Change your thinking, change your life. This means that if there is something in our lives that we want to change, we can change how we think about it and thus bring a different result in our lives. This works in any area you can imagine, from health to work to inter-personal relationships to finances and more.

Continue reading “Attachment”

How Did I Get Here?

Have you ever wondered “How did I get here?”

Not how you were born, but how you got to the place you are now in life.

Why you think the way you do? Why you see the world the way you do? And why other people don’t see it the same way? In other words, how did you get here? How did life get to be the way it is?

Your Belief Soup – How did it get here?

soupIt may seem like common sense, but most of us don’t realize that each one of us grew up in a different soup of beliefs from parents, birth order, teachers, circumstances, expectations, and the like. All of that shaped who we are. And sometimes life moves too fast to examine some of the things that we assume to be true. Looking at those beliefs as they come up helps us understand the question: How did I get here? Continue reading “How Did I Get Here?”

What If It Were True?

If you feel lost or discouraged, take a moment to imagine… What if it were true?

what if  What if it were true…
… that you are loved by the very Power that created you?
… you knew that were supported by that Power?

What if…

… you didn’t need to worry about anything? What if you could simply, calmly know what is needed, what is next, and then know it was taken care of? Continue reading “What If It Were True?”