Mindfulness not Mind Fullness

The term Mindfulness is a newer term.

We used to say consciousness, then awareness.

It’s about being mind-full. Not with thoughts and ideas and intellect.

But a mind full of awareness, presence, Be-ing.

It is about being present in the moment.

About not being caught up in the endless to do list.

About enjoying what we have, and getting off the hamster wheel of do, do, do.

If you are one of so many of us who answer the question “How are you?” with “Good, but busy!” then you might benefit from taking a few moments each day to be still and quiet. Continue reading “Mindfulness not Mind Fullness”

Paying Attention Costs Nothing

Lia paying attentionPaying attention.. what an interesting phrase. Being Attentive Costs Us Nothing. So why do we use the word “paying” there?

The cost is our attention itself. It is where we place our attention, which requires effort. Or at least it requires remembering to do it. I suppose that could be at the cost of other seemingly more important things on our endless to-do list.
But it comes at the cost of Being.
So today, I’m putting this at the top of my to-be list: Be.

We can learn a lesson from children and animals. They stay present and focused in the moment.

How Do I Do That?

Mindfullness Bell appI can set a reminder on my smart phone. There are apps for that. I like Mindfulness. I can set a bowl to chime at any interval between a minute and 23 hours, 59 minutes, and have it run for up to 24 hours. Or I can set it to random.

I can use an outside cue such as the telephone or the doorbell or any ringing sound. Each time I hear the phone ring, it can be a reminder to take a breath and Be. Remember that I am. Or in the car, I can use turn signals as my cue. Each time I see them or use them, or see someone change lanes without using them, it can be my reminder.

How About You?

How do you remember to stay in the Present Moment?

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Walking the Labyrinth

Labyrinth from aboveEvery year a have a chance to walk the labyrinth that is set up at my Center for Spiritual Living. And every year, walking the labyrinth is a unique experience. This year was no different.

Before stepping into the labyrinth to walk, we are invited to do 2 things:

Set an INTENTION and choose what to RELEASE.

Continue reading “Walking the Labyrinth”

5 Worst Relationship Mistakes

WaitingEver make a mistake in a relationship? We all have. We weren’t taught this stuff in school. But it is a major part of our lives. So we can either study the subject or learn by trial and error to avoid painful relationship mistakes.

This past weekend I went to a workshop called Creating Sacred Relationships, led by Dr. Brenda Wade. She spoke about the 5 worst relationship mistakes and what to do instead.

Not only did she give us permission to share what she taught, but encouraged us to share it. So I am sharing a few gems from her about the worst relationship mistakes we make and what to change. Continue reading “5 Worst Relationship Mistakes”

Grateful for Awareness

Recently I was at an event where we were asked to pick the 3 things that we are most grateful for.



I am grateful for so many things. Things we can take for granted, like having a warm safe home in this cold rainy weather, indoor plumbing, being able to see and hear, having the use of all my limbs even if they don’t work as well as they used to. I have several friends who have had knees replaced this past year. I a grateful that mine is working pretty well so far.

And I think that what I am MOST grateful for is Awareness. Continue reading “Grateful for Awareness”

New Year’s Resolution Revolution

2017 resolutionSo the New Year is coming. Are you planning a New Year’s resolution? How about a new year’s resolution revolution?

Why? Well… Did you make some New Year’s resolutions last year? And did you stick with them? Most of us don’t. So I am going to revolutionize my resolutions this year by doing them in a different way.

Resolution Revolution

revolution around the sunThe celebration of the new year is really rather arbitrary. I mean, every day a new year is beginning. And our own personal new year starts on our birthday each year. Continue reading “New Year’s Resolution Revolution”

The Gift of Presence

This holiday season, I choose to give myself the gift of presence. Instead of presents, I choose presence. And here’s why I’ve chose to give myself the gift of presence. Especially with the solstice, it is time for me to begin to come out of hibernation and return to life in a fuller way.

Meditation as Practice

mantra malaI’ve been using a string of beads to meditate. Similar to a rosary in the Catholic tradition, I use a male, or string of beads to help me stay focused as I repeat a phrase to center myself. And of course, that’s a human problem, to keep the mind focused on the task at hand and be fully present. The beads are a tool to keep the body focused. The phrase is a tool to keep the mind focused.

If you have ever done meditation, you know that the mind strays. That is what minds do. The practice is to notice when the attention wanders and then come back to the phrase, back to the beads, back to the posture, back to the breath, back to the moment.

Returning again and again

Meditator PresenceAnd when it starts again, the victory is in noticing that it has, and returning to the practice again. And again. And again.

Not too surprisingly, I often get to the end of the string of 108 beads and realize that I only payed close attention to a small fraction of the time.

Small Moments and Big Moments

Kaleidescope of presenceAnd then I cannot help but see that I am living my life that way. Do I want to get to the end of the string of beads called my life, and realize that I was not fully present for most of it? Do I want to get to the end of the year, the month, the week, the day and realize that I was not really present for most of it? Do I want to get to the end of this hour and realize that I have not been present?

Sleeping CatSometimes the answer is yes. Sometimes I want to just sit and watch a movie online and escape. Sometimes I want to daydream. Sometimes I want to run away from what I am feeling.

And in the evening, I tend to have less energy. So I tend to fire up the streaming device and put on something in the background. And before I know it, I am sucked in an binging on half the season of a TV show.

And that’s OK. It is what I chose that evening.

Is This What I Want?

toddler in autumn leavesAt some point, I need to ask myself how many evenings I want to do that. At some point, I want to ask myself how long do I want to live my life this way? Do I want to get to the end of this day and realize that I have not been present?

Can I return to the childlike way of being fully engaged in my life?
I have this gift called life. Like everyone, sometimes it’s really hard and I don’t want to deal with it. And sometimes it’s amazing and I love it. And someday, I will reach the end of my life. And what will I feel about it on that day? Assuming I have the opportunity to think about it before my last breath.

Flowery wood pathSo perhaps today I will choose to be more present. Perhaps this evening I will choose to listen to one of the many programs I have downloaded instead of turning on the streaming device. Perhaps today I will choose to be more present in each moment that I remember. And like the meditation, when I notice that my focus has strayed, I can bring it back to what is occurring in front of me, in me, and as me. I can set the reminder on my phone. I can choose cues to remind me, like every time I hear a bell or door open. I can make that intention for my day and practice, practice, practice.

Wish me luck!

How About You?

Do you have favorite practices for reminding yourself to stay present?

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I Forgot to Remember

When you are about to leave your home to go somewhere, and forget something, do you say, “Oh, I forgot…” Or do you say “Oh! I remember…”? Well, not long ago, when I realized that I forgot something, and caught myself saying so, I realized that I couldn’t have known that I forgot it until I remembered it. I decided to start saying, “Oh, I just remembered something else!”

Re-framing Is Another Way of Looking At Something

Picture FrameThis is a simple re-frame, another way to look at something. It may seem subtle but I am giving myself an entirely different message. It is one small part of moving in an upward spiral instead of a downward one. Reframing is part of New Thought philosophy. Continue reading “I Forgot to Remember”

Gratefulness is a Great Fullness

GratefulnessI did an auditory double-take the other day when I heard a word that I had not heard before: Gratefulness. Oh sure, I’ve heard “grateful” and “gratitude”, but not the word gratefulness. And I heard it as Great Fullness, which it actually is. The feeling of Gratefulness is a great fullness in my heart, an experience of being full to overflowing.

The Opposite of Grateful

angry peacockThe opposite would be feelings of taking things for granted or complaining, Continue reading “Gratefulness is a Great Fullness”

Oneness In the Pre-Election Season

political symbolsIf there’s only One Life, how does oneness fit in with the political election season where there’s so much duality?

I don’t even watch the news, but it’s impossible to ignore the huge polarity in the media.

So how does oneness figure into that?

We all have our minds made up, and no amount of social media or debates is likely to make us vote for the other candidate. Why even bother debating? Continue reading “Oneness In the Pre-Election Season”