Making Friends with Money
Have you made friends with money or do you stress about it?
Here are three exercises you can do that I have heard in just about every workshop about money consciousness. I’d love to hear what insights they bring you.
What are some of your beliefs about money?
Do any of these sound familiar?
- Money doesn’t grow on trees.
- You have to work hard to make money.
- There is never enough money.
- A penny saved is a penny earned.
- Save for a rainy day.
- Filthy Rich
- Money doesn’t buy happiness.
- You can never be too rich or too thin.
How many can you think of that you’ve heard? Which ones do you believe? If you’re not sure, try saying the opposite. If you get the feeling that you’re lying, then you probably don’t believe what you said. Is money your friend, an enemy, or an elusive dream?
What is your earliest memory about money?
Relax and think back. Can you remember an early memory about money?
Remember your thoughts and feelings that happened then, and what you decided was true about money. Is that still true in your mind or in your life? How does that affect the way you use money now?
If you need more education on using money wisely, there are plenty of programs out there to help you with budgeting, spending, saving.
If you want to change your feelings and beliefs about money, start to imagine yourself with more money. Imagine that money loves you. Imagine that money is attracted to you and likes being near you. Start making friends with money, and it just might make a difference in how much you have.
What Is Your Relationship With Money
This exercise is done with a friend. Your friend will represent money. For 3 to 5 minutes, talk to your friend as though she or he were money. For example, “I don’t understand you. You are so hard to get.” and so on. It can be very illuminating to hear yourself speak to money this way.
Then reflect on what you said. If you spoke to a friend that way, would you have a good friendship? This exercise can help you see where healing needs to happen in your attitudes about money.
If you want, you can switch roles so that your friend has a chance to experience the same thing.
How About You?
Are you friends with money?
Do you have a story about increasing your income or getting out of debt or a dream that money helped you realize?