Fundamental Desire for Wholeness

Your Fundamental Desire for Wholeness

realization of joyI love how Buddhist nun Pema Chodron speaks about what she calls our fundamental desire for wholeness.

She explains a beautiful process for managing our thoughts and emotions when we are “hooked” by something in our life that causes us to suffer or feel bad in some way.

It’s the Little Things

She is not referring to major life trauma. This is a practice for returning to peace of mind when some little everyday upset grabs your attention and hijacks your day. You know, all that little petty annoyances that can add up until you want to scream, or toss your computer out the window.

The Antidote

Pema Chodron’s steps to return to wholeness:

  1. Recognize the shenpa (suffering)
  2. Refrain from biting the hook
  3. Relax into it
  4. Resolve to keep practicing.

Try It Anywhere Any Time

This is a practice that you can do without anyone around you knowing it.
So you can use it at work, at the grocery store, anywhere you get activated.

How About You?

What is your favorite way to let go of the little things?
Did you try this and did it work?
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Your Great Wall

Where is your Great Wall?

div class=”separator”>fortress wall Where do you keep yourself separate from everything and everyone else?
Or where in your life do you put up a barrier to feel safe, secure, but alone?

We all have them.

When Did This Wall Show Up?

We learned to do this as we grew up in a world where everyone around us had them.
As children, we internalize what we see and feel and observe in the people around us. You know that you have seen a child mimic a parent’s behavior. Well, we do this to some extent with everything that we experience when we are those young sponges learning how to be in the world. Continue reading “Your Great Wall”

Paying Attention Costs Nothing

Lia paying attentionPaying attention.. what an interesting phrase. Being Attentive Costs Us Nothing. So why do we use the word “paying” there?

The cost is our attention itself. It is where we place our attention, which requires effort. Or at least it requires remembering to do it. I suppose that could be at the cost of other seemingly more important things on our endless to-do list.
But it comes at the cost of Being.
So today, I’m putting this at the top of my to-be list: Be.

We can learn a lesson from children and animals. They stay present and focused in the moment.

How Do I Do That?

Mindfullness Bell appI can set a reminder on my smart phone. There are apps for that. I like Mindfulness. I can set a bowl to chime at any interval between a minute and 23 hours, 59 minutes, and have it run for up to 24 hours. Or I can set it to random.

I can use an outside cue such as the telephone or the doorbell or any ringing sound. Each time I hear the phone ring, it can be a reminder to take a breath and Be. Remember that I am. Or in the car, I can use turn signals as my cue. Each time I see them or use them, or see someone change lanes without using them, it can be my reminder.

How About You?

How do you remember to stay in the Present Moment?

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Grounding Meditation

Why would I want to know a grounding meditation? We all have times when we feel angry, anxious, confused, jealous, and so on. I don’t know about you, but I do not enjoy feeling that way. Wouldn’t it be great if we could flip a switch to turn that off?

Well, grounding is one way to give ourselves the space to make a choice. It simply means becoming present again to where we are in physical space. It’s like coming home. I find that if I take a moment to do this before speaking – even to myself – it makes a huge difference.

Our brain will tend to follow pathways that we have used before. That’s why habits are hard to break. That’s why it’s so easy to fall into speaking from those less-than-our-best places. For example, I find myself automatically cursing aloud to myself when I am clumsy, or when my computer acts up. I don’t need to analyze why I get frustrated by such a little thing. I can simply start PRACTICING a new choice. Continue reading “Grounding Meditation”

Living In Love

Living In Love

I am practicing living in love.

realization of joyWithout needing an object for my affection.

Because I’ve been in love enough to know that love is in side me, and doesn’t come from someone else. It’s something we feel and reveal when we connect with a special person or pet.

I had a wonderful feeling of love every day for more than 17 years that I shared my home with Lia, an amazing, intelligent, incredibly sweet cat. She died a couple of years ago, and I did not replace her. Sometimes I still miss her so much my eyes fill with tears. And I am deeply grateful to have had so much time with her. She taught me a lot about love. Continue reading “Living In Love”

Making Friends with Money

Making Friends with Money

moneyHave you made friends with money or do you stress about it?

Here are three exercises you can do that I have heard in just about every workshop about money consciousness. I’d love to hear what insights they bring you.

What are some of your beliefs about money?

Do any of these sound familiar?

  1. Money doesn’t grow on trees.
  2. You have to work hard to make money.
  3. There is never enough money.
  4. A penny saved is a penny earned.
  5. Save for a rainy day.
  6. Filthy Rich
  7. Money doesn’t buy happiness.
  8. You can never be too rich or too thin.

Continue reading “Making Friends with Money”

Let’s Get Vertical

Let’s Get Vertical

Have you heard of life described as having vertical and horizontal dimensions?

In our Western culture, we are overwhelmingly horizontal. So let’s get vertical.

The Horizontal Aspect

The horizontal aspect of life is all the stuff we do in our lives. Work, laundry, play, social life, and everything on your to-do list. We’re really good at the horizontal dimension.

The Vertical

Vertical ArchThe vertical dimension is our connection to self, to Spirit, your inner knowing.

Problem is, in our society, we tend to focus on the horizontal and forget the vertical.

And it’s all too easy to get so busy with the horizontal – the doing part of our lives – that there is no time left for the important things. Continue reading “Let’s Get Vertical”

Walking the Labyrinth

Labyrinth from aboveEvery year a have a chance to walk the labyrinth that is set up at my Center for Spiritual Living. And every year, walking the labyrinth is a unique experience. This year was no different.

Before stepping into the labyrinth to walk, we are invited to do 2 things:

Set an INTENTION and choose what to RELEASE.

Continue reading “Walking the Labyrinth”